Relationships: “Why are you so full of Sh!t?”

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Relationships: “Why are you so full of Sh!t?”

Reflections from an airport… I’m here an hour and a half early for my flight back to NY, so I’m sitting here at my gate watching all the people walk by. It’s amazing the things you can pick up by people watching. You can almost feel the stress on some while you can’t help but smile at the happiness of others.

I had no intention of breaking out my laptop and writing. I had an action-packed trip that allotted very little down time so I was content just people watching and reflecting on the events of this trip. But as I was sitting here, a couple walked by and they were clearly in an argument. As tension seemed to escalate, I (and anyone else within a 50 foot radius) heard the woman exclaim, “Why are you so full of shit?”

Her very valid question got me thinking about relationships and honesty. And of course, out came the laptop and here I go.

So here’s my brief rant on relationships and honesty.

I’m blessed in what I do in that I get to meet people all across the world and build relationships with them. Whether they are business relationships or personal relationships, I’m always in a process of relationship building. Throughout the years, time and time again I have encountered an excessive amount of people who are just fake.

I know it’s not just me. Haven’t you also encountered this “Fake People” phenomenon? Some are overtly fake and you can see through their act from a thousand miles away. Others have refined their talent for fictional living to the point where it’s almost undetectable.

I’m not sure why people are so quick to lie to others. I’m sure they have some sort of victimized way of justifying it to themselves, but I want to offer a bit of advice.

Here’s an idea…When entering into any type of relationship, whether it’s one that is going to last one hour or one year or longer, just be honest.

Sounds simple, but for some reason, honesty tends to be the first victim of an interaction between two people.

It’s not nice to be dishonest with others, but let’s leave the effect on others alone for a second. Let’s focus on ourselves.

Why be dishonest? Why compromise yourself so easily?

Why enter in to any relationship knowing that you’re building it on sand?

If you’re not comfortable enough with yourself or with your own truth when entering a relationship, then you’re not ready for that relationship. Don’t make the other person suffer for your own lack of integrity or inability to embrace the truths of your life. Just because you are available for a relationship doesn’t mean you are ready for one.

Be open to developing authenticity in all of your relationships. Building any relationship on a solid foundation of truth greatly increases its chances of longevity…and it may save you a hollering at an airport.

© Steve Maraboli

From the bestselling book, “Unapologetically You”

Relationship Rant: Steve Maraboli

Lynda Howard

May 3, 2016at 12:02 am

I think the reasons your messages are so well received, is because WE feel you are the real deal. And one more thing you are put together REAL NICE.

Doris Castro

May 3, 2016at 1:02 am

What a lady

Doris Castro

May 3, 2016at 3:09 am

Good reason for so many remain single .

Alinda De La Cruz

May 14, 2016at 5:22 am

Very well said, thank you

Ann Rasmussen

May 14, 2016at 6:02 am

Amen, I am very sorry for my hurtful actions. I will try to create healthier boundaries with everyone. I am staying with my husband.

Chanda Farcas

May 14, 2016at 6:24 am

Thank you! Facebook is such a dog and pony show and full of shit. The authenticity is not there. It’s the ” oh look at me ” bs that everyone wants to believe. Be real and the love will come your way without the bs. It’s the face with out feelings connection. Make it real with the heart then the visual.

Carolyn Simpson Davy

May 14, 2016at 8:04 am

This resonates! I don’t think I yelled at my *ex husband in an airport, though …
Thank you for articulating these situations.

Malana Roets

May 14, 2016at 9:14 am

Thank you Steve well said

Norma Briones

May 14, 2016at 1:34 pm

Ur messages R eye openner. It is well said, that I even wish for more to make others look at themselves & think a thousand times not to jump into relationships if they’re not ready.

Merikatakita Tomoshilukitekari

June 25, 2016at 9:40 pm

Interesting to read thanx Steve