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Sunday, September 6

The Person Who Bad-Mouths You Most

There is a strange pattern in life… the people most committed to exposing your flaws, bad decisions, mistakes, and low points are often the ones working hardest to hide their own.

Like a smoke screen or dark magician’s sleight of hand… they distract others by smearing you. Low moments of your past become the carpet they sweep their dirt under.

It is easier to point at someone else than to sit alone with yourself. Easier to dissect another person’s mistakes than to open the doors you keep locked inside your own life.

So some people become experts in accusation. They keep the spotlight moving because they are terrified of where it might land if it ever stops.

Sometimes they know their own story, reputation, career, or relationships could crumble if exposed… so they work very hard trying to keep you quiet or damage your credibility in case you do speak the truth about them. 

Pay attention to people’s behavior… especially the cowardly gossipers and smear campaigners. Constant criticism should tell you something about the critic.

Not every complaint is projection, and not every person who dislikes you is secretly guilty of something. But when someone seems unusually invested in tearing you down… when they need an audience for it… when your name becomes a recurring character in their conversations… pay attention.

People reveal themselves by what they obsess over.

Sometimes the loudest person pointing toward your skeletons is simply hoping nobody notices the closet behind them.

 

Steve Maraboli